HOW WAS TURNING 35 FOR ME?
It was a reflection. A deep and profound reflection!
I have accepted the fact that, I'm no longer a part of the young and the restless demographic. Haha!
Gone are the days that I can party all night till wee hours in the morning. These days, my idea of a party is being tucked under my blanket-- in the comforts of my bed.
I can't make excuses anymore. Part of adulting is being totally responsible of my own actions, saying the sensible words, having a stable job, and paying my own bills. I thought living with my parents as a teenager was like being in prison. Little did I know, that it was the easiest life one can have when you're provided of FREE stuffs.
Yep, teenagers...don't rush yourself into controlling your own life. Because as much as it's the most liberating feeling in the world, 90% of the time you'll look back--- to when all the serious decisions and anything with monetary values in your life, was made by another adult.
Yet again, I had no regrets of the life I chose to live. For it has given me lessons, opportunities, experiences, strength, and courage to take on whatever challenges and difficulties to have lead me to where I am and who I have become today.
And for ALL of that, I am grateful!
On that note, I wanted to share the 35 THINGS I LEARNED IN LIFE, RELATIONSHIP, CAREER, AND TRAVELING--- that I would have definitely advised to my younger self...
1. Life gets better. Only if you work harder and believe it will be. Be proactive! Like, literally!
2. Never ever assume. There are always two sides of a story.
3. You can reach your dreams, regardless of your age. Here's a factual inspiration: Ellen Degeneres was 45 years old when she started from zero(!) into building her TV career once again.
4. We are never too old to study anything. Even if you just turned 30 or 70 years old.
5. Communication is the best solution to any life problems. Talk directly to that person. Express if you're upset, hurt, annoyed, or embarrassed.
6. Sunscreen is a must on your daily regime. While investing in good skin care products is the best gift you can give to your older self.
7. Stay curious. And never be afraid to ask what you don't know and what you want to know.
8. Having a positive mind and outlook in life is 100 times better than being grumpy and negative. Being negative will only give you wrinkles!
9. Don't be afraid to take risks. It is life's way of opening MORE doors and windows for you.
10. Don't count the years. They seemed long. Count every moment of everyday, and before you know it--- a year has passed by.
11. If the job likes you, they will hire you. But make sure it is the job that you will love to do.
12. Stop working-- just for validation. You're not there to work, only to please them.
13. Your passion and hard work will never get unnoticed. But it does take time.
14. If your job doesn't give you purpose, meaning, and passion anymore. Quit!
15. Help and treat everyone with respect-- just the same. From your boss down to the cleaning staff.
ON PEOPLE ( AND FRIENDS ALIKE)
16. Just because everybody is doing it--- it doesn't mean it's also good for you. Don't give in to peer pressure when every inch of your body says NO!
17. You don't have to have many friends, a few is enough. As cliche as it may sound, what matters is a true friend who will be there for you--- through thick and thin. And vice versa.
18. The decisions and choices we make-- speaks volume of who we are. Always choose the one that makes you a better and kinder person.
19. Take compassion wherever you go. Everyone of us have had difficult battles and challenges in our lives-- whether you're white, black, or brown.
20. Be kind. No matter how people treat you. Because at the end of the day, people will remember us on how we made them feel.
ON RELATIONSHIP, LOVE, AND SEX
21. Value your self worth. Really.
22. When a man really likes/loves you. He will pursue you. He will invest time and effort. No buts, no excuses!
23. Love is not blind. We need to open our eyes to who's in front of us and what he truly is. Knowing the person from the very start is just as important as investing our feelings and time with him.
24. Young love is great to have. But don't stay there too long. Because you're a different person when you were 16 and you're a completely different person when you're 18, 20, 24, 26 or 30. In other words, grow up as individual, because the longer you stay, you will fall out of love and you will end up-- resenting each other. Never make such excuse that, "you're just staying in the relationship because you felt bad of wasting the amount of years you've invested".
25. There's a good reason for a break up. You are both giving yourselves the gift of not wasting any more time, to be more mature individuals, to be more respectful as a person, and to be able to give a bigger kind of love to the next one.
26. Moving on takes time. Take as much time as you need! And take the lessons you learned about yourself and your capacity to love from that break up.
27. Sex should never ever happen when you're drunk. Never.
28. Sex is never the answer to please a man to like you, the way you like him. Don't do it with the hope (or goal) of, "being the girl who can change him". Because the only person who will change a man, is himself.
29. Always have protected sex. Always! This will not only protect you from any STDs but also for unplanned parenthood. You can't bring a baby into this world from your mistake and unprepared life. (Ahhh, I wish every parent should undergo a grueling application process and interviews before they're even allowed to have children.)
30. The best kind of love and relationship-- is when you both value your self worth, you know how to genuinely communicate with each other, that you will continue to support each other's dreams, and you will always respect each other through your differences.
31. Get out there and see the world. Get to know more the locals and the fascinating history (and stories) of your town, your city, your province, or your own country.
32. Contrary to what they say these days, traveling can still be expensive. But investing on it, is just like investing on a new iPhone, new laptop, or an expensive handbag. So would you choose to have a fleeting happiness in buying those things, or would you choose to have lifelong happiness through your travel experiences?!
33. When flying on a plane, always ask for the exit row. It'll give you more leg room and comfort! You can thank me later for this tip. ;)
34. There is nothing more fulfilling in life than learning life lessons from everyone you meet while traveling. So always have an open mind-- while staying true to who you are, as you collect these stories along the way. And take note: agree to disagree, just in case a debate will ever take place.
Above all these, the most important life lesson I learned for the 35 years of my existence is...
35. Always live in gratitude! With a grateful mind and a grateful heart--- life will reward you a hundred fold of blessings.